What if you can’t take HRT or don’t want to take HRT?
I have to start by declaring my hand. I used to end up in tears so often with tales of friends and friends of friends taking HRT and literally overnight getting their lives back. I tried over 10 different types of HRT over a 4-year period and they just made my symptoms worse and worse.
Without wanting to sound dramatic. Well alright I do just a tiny bit. I think coming OFF them saved my life. I know that DOES sound dramatic. I used to have shocking migraines and my legs used to swell up and get incredibly hard. I was told for ages that these were my menopause symptoms. BUT a chance conversation, while having a scan done by a vein doctor, led to him recommending I saw a visiting gynaecologist sooner rather than later because…
He told me that one of the side effects of HRT could be migraines and leg pain… It was so casual the way he said it.
When I DID see the gynaecologist 2 weeks later, it took her 30 minutes to understand all the different HRT tablets, gels and creams I was taking as well as the anti-depressants and sleeping tablets.
Frankly she was HORRIFIED and said these killer words – “You need to come off all the HRT immediately and never take any ever again. They are causing the migraines and the hardness in your legs. You are lucky you have not had a stroke yet. Have you flown recently?”
I said yes and she literally shuddered. As if death or disability from a stroke wasn’t enough, she then carried on and said. “You should have been on HRT combo and because you weren’t, I will need to do an immediate biopsy on your uterus to check for cancer…” Enough to slap your legs tight shut definitely.
I just want to reassure you all that I am perfectly FINE now and did NOT have uterine cancer, although I do still need to go for 6-monthly checks.
So what can we learn from all this.
Firstly, there are thousands of women who can’t take HRT for various reasons like cancer risk etc. There are also thousands of women who just don’t want to take HRT either.
Second – those of you who have read my stuff or heard me talk, know that I have a bit of a thing about impressing on everybody how underlying STRESS levels cause menopause symptoms to be worse than they need to be. So I think that just trying a proper and rigorous stress reduction programme FIRST might mean that some women who are given HRT, might not actually need them. For me, that is learning to meditate. It is free and you don’t need any special clothes to do it. The impact in terms of performance, focus, calm, balance. etc are second to none.
Third, most doctor’s appointment times are about 5 minutes. So whether it is HRT, anti-depressants or sleeping pills that doctors hand out to women in their dozens in these 5 minute appointments, side effects get glossed over, if discussed at all. Women often need to try several different types of HRT before they find one that works, and that is often not explained. So you need to prepare thoroughly before making an appointment and also take time to research a good doctor or specialist.
Fourth, you need to be aware that the time needed to come off them require as much thought and preparation as going on them.
So to sum up, yes HRT can absolutely help bring back women from the brink. BUT not necessarily as a first line of defence. It should be the lowest dose available, it should be in combination WITH stress reduction and changes in lifestyle. You need to sort your sleep and diet out. It is NOT enough on its own. HRT is not a panacea.
Sadly we are not yet in a position where our doctors have enough alternative knowledge about stress reduction and nutrition and sleep management, so that is why we need to step up and take charge of our own health and menopause…we need to get the right information and the right support and keep informed all the time.